Written by Bibi Gnagno
Ask for what you want. The worst that can happen is they say “no” and that won’t kill you. So, why not try it?
Often, we’re so scared to ask for what we want, thinking that we’ll get rejected, our self-esteem hurt and our ego bruised that we stay and instead suffer in silence.
I always tell my mother, “Closed mouths don’t get fed”.
Most of the things that I have been able to accomplish in my life or opportunities that I’ve been blessed with, all started because I dared to open up my mouth and ask.
Sometimes we have so much self-talk that’s negative, telling us we don’t deserve what we’re asking for and/or what will others think, that we don’t move off of dead center and just ask.
Of course, when you ask, you may just receive so you have to be ready or get ready to receive the thing that you’ve asked for.
I remember something that I read about George Washington Carver telling the story about how he got rejected from college and finally accepted later on.
He kept on asking and even after being turned down initially, they let him in.
A large part of success is holding on a while longer after others have let go.
Go the extra mile, it’s usually not crowded.
It’s right when you’re about to give up that you have the break through.
There are ways in which you can start to call into existence the things that you want to see manifest in your life. Here are a couple of things that have worked for me:
- Create a vision board either on paper or on the computer. Make sure it reflects what you want to see happen in your life. When I was applying to law school, I took all of the catalogs that had been mailed to me and cut out pictures of libraries, law books, students on campus and all the names of the schools I wanted to go to. I kept getting rejection after rejection letter but I would look at those posters every single day. Fast forward and have my Juris Doctor. Create the vision and look at it every single day until it becomes your reality.
- Speak it out loud to yourself. People that live next to me probably think I’m crazy but I ask for things out loud in my apartment. I ask for furniture, I ask for guidance from God, I ask for more money, I ask for divine ideas to move my business forward. It’s like ordering food from the drive-thru. If you don’t open your mouth and say what you want loud enough, the person you’re ordering from won’t be able to hear you. You have to be specific. It’s also an exercise in faith because by saying it out loud, you’re making yourself believe it as well. So say it out loud!
- Start digging your ditches. This one can be challenging especially when your circumstances don’t look too appealing. Digging your ditches is the part that comes after you have asked for what you want. “I want my business to be successful then that means I need to reach out to five people that may be interested in my coaching services.” Think of these “ditches” as opportunities to grow instead of pitfalls. It’s basically positive framing. Look at the need you have in order to move forward and ask for it before it manifests itself as a road block or a literal ditch. Closed mouths don’t get fed so unless you open your mouth to receive the food then there’s no point. Dig your proverbial ditches up front and expect that they will be filled.
Becoming powerful and understanding that you are a co-creator with God requires that you fill yourself with courage. Sometimes it doesn’t mean that you’ll have all the confidence in the world but it means you keep going until what you have asked for shows up. However, before it can show up, you actually have to ask for it because again, “closed mouths don’t get fed.”